The Quiet Strength Within You: Soothing the Nation with Healing and Support

There is a quiet, unspoken strength in all of us — a gentle, resilient force that helps us weather the hardest storms. But sometimes, even the strongest among us need a little help to rise, to heal, and to find their way back to themselves.

Behind this strength, though, is a truth we can no longer ignore: gender-based violence (GBV) continues to devastate the lives of so many across our beloved nation. It is a silent epidemic, one that leaves scars not just on the bodies of its victims but on the heart of our society. Yet, this is not a battle that should be fought in silence.

This message is not just a call to action; it is a call to you, the everyday South African — to rise, to speak out, and to reach out to those in need. In times of deep hurt, it is the gentle presence of support that can make all the difference. Just like uGogo, who is there with a warm embrace, a word of comfort, and the silent strength to help you carry your pain. It’s that same quiet power we need to offer to others, and to ourselves, as we stand together in the fight against GBV.

The Pain We Cannot Ignore

Every day, we hear stories of suffering. Women, children, and men living in fear — often from those they love most. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or sexual violence, the impact of GBV is far-reaching. It destroys families, disrupts communities, and TEARS at the very fabric of our society.

Statistics are staggering. According to the South African Police Service (SAPS), over 50,000 cases of sexual offences are reported annually. Yet, this is only the tip of the iceberg. According to the World Health Organisation 2024 statistic, nearly 1 in 3, or 30%, of women have been subjected to physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner. These figures speak to the depth of the crisis we face.

But what hurts even more is the silence that surrounds this suffering. In this silence, violence thrives.

The Fear of Speaking Out

Why do so many remain silent? Why do victims continue to endure violence, even when they know they need help? The reasons are complex, and rooted in fear — a fear that often keeps them locked in their pain.

Fear of Repercussions: For many victims, speaking out feels like an invitation to more pain. They fear retaliation from their abusers, who may lash out more violently if their actions are exposed.

Stigma and Shame: In a world that too often judges, victims of GBV are often shamed into silence. They fear being blamed, judged, or ostracised by  their families, friends, or communities. Many internalise the belief that somehow they brought the violence upon themselves.

Fear of Not Being Believed: Too often, survivors fear that their pain won’t be taken seriously. They fear not being believed by those closest to them, or by the authorities who should protect them.

Financial and Emotional Dependence: Many victims, especially women, feel financially or emotionally dependent on their abusers. The thought of leaving, of breaking free, can feel impossible.

These fears are real, and they are painful. In some cases, speaking out has led to even more harm — further abuse, harassment, or threats. But there is hope. There is a space where the silence is broken, where fear gives way to healing.

The Power of Confidential Support: TEARS  Foundation Can  Help

At TEARS  Foundation, we understand that silence isn’t always a choice — sometimes it’s a survival mechanism. That’s why we provide a space where victims of GBV can find the courage to speak, to heal, and to rebuild. We offer confidential, compassionate support. You do not have to fight alone.

Our helplines, counselling services, and support groups are a place where your story is heard with empathy and care. There’s no shame in seeking help. There’s only courage. When you reach out to us, you are not just speaking to a voice on the other end of a phone — you are reaching out to someone who will walk with you, step by step, until you find your strength again.

We also work closely with shelters, legal professionals, and other support networks to ensure that victims have access to the help they need, whether that’s escaping a dangerous situation or seeking legal protection. We are here to offer more than just advice — we’re here to offer hope, compassion, and action.

Statistics Speak: The Need for Action

The numbers surrounding GBV in South Africa are deeply alarming, but they are also a call to action. We cannot, and must not, look away any longer.

• 66% of women do not report their abusers due to fear of retaliation, shame, or not knowing where to turn.
• Over 3,000 women and children are killed every year due to GBV, a number that continues to rise.
• GBV-related deaths account for nearly 40% of all violent deaths in South Africa, making it one of the leading causes of death for women of reproductive age.

These statistics are heartbreaking, but they also show us the urgent need for change. The first step toward change is breaking the silence.

Why Your Voice Matters

Even if you are not a survivor, your voice matters. Your support matters. You don’t have to have all the answers — sometimes, simply being there is enough. The small acts of compassion, the quiet moments of empathy, and the willingness to listen can be a lifeline for someone in need.

Your support can help build a culture of kindness, where victims feel safe to come forward. It can help turn the tide in our communities, where silence gives way to understanding and action.

Tears is not just about offering resources; it’s about offering presence. It’s about standing with survivors, lifting them up, and letting them know they are not alone. Together, we can create an environment where no one has to suffer in silence, where victims are not further victimised by shame or fear.

Take Action Today

The road to healing starts when we choose to speak up, to stand together, and to offer the kind of gentle support that can change lives. If you are a survivor, know this: you are not alone. There is support available, from organisations  like TEARS  Foundation, and from people who care deeply about your healing.

And to those who wonder how they can help — the answer is simple. Be there. Speak up when you hear injustice. Offer your support when you see pain. It could make all the difference to someone who needs it.

Together, we can create a South Africa where everyone — no matter their gender, age, or background — can live free from the fear of violence. Together, we can heal.

Visit our resources page  to learn more about the resources available to you, from counselling services to safe spaces for support.

Reach out for help at any time. It’s confidential, free, and available 24/7.

📞 Dial *134*7355# or CALL 08000 83277 / 08000 TEARS for free, confidential help  — whenever you need it, all year long.

You Are Not Alone.